I’ve taken a year off from the blog to focus on my newest little family member, Colette Evangeline, born July 17, 2013. (My mom’s birthday! How cool is that?) Now that she is almost a year old, I feel like I have the time and energy to start writing again.
I’ve had tons of topics rolling around in my head for ages now, but I’ve decided for my grand re-entry into the blogosphere to start with a bang. And this is a bang that I’m quite certain many of my friends will despise. In fact, I’ve held off on this particular topic purposefully, because I have many friends and family with opposing opinions. And what topic is this? The dreaded, mind-numbing, eye-ball gouging (ok, too much Game of Thrones for me…) topic of gay marriage.
Dum – Dum – DUM
Let me be crystal clear. This post is about politics, not religion.
I believe the government should be removed from “marriage” all together. It has no place in something that has become a tangled mess of legal and religious concepts. I mean, this is what all the debate is about right? Conservative religions don’t want “their” pair bonding concept to be used by those that don’t abide by their standards. So, separate the legal bond from the religious bond. Allow those who wish to have a legal partner (be it a brother and sister, two elderly friends, two guys who say they love each other), choose whomever they wish to share a partnership. This would allow spinster old ladies, and many others, to have tax, health, and legal benefits without having to “marry.” It would also allow anyone else to choose a legal partner to share these benefits with. I honestly don’t see a problem with this. But I’m sure many of the “American = Christian” public will have a major problem with this idea. Frankly, I don’t want American politicians of ANY type having a say over what I can call acceptable or unacceptable. And this includes marriage. Why would you want such a corrupt lot determining anything?
And let’s say you are a homosexual who wants to be able to “marry” your partner. Why, oh why, would you want to attach a religious name to something that is viewed as sinful by many Christians? Why wouldn’t you want your own secular legal concept that has no strings attached to it? Isn’t it the “fairness” that people are after, rather than the religious terminology? This perpetually baffles me.
Paired with this legal partnership concept, I would like to see Christian denominations return to the true values and strengths of Capital-M-Marriage. Marriage and Christianity should be intimately woven together. Churches should probably have internal standards that they would uphold before performing a Marriage ceremony. And they should most certainly be allowed to uphold whatever standards they deem fit. Imagine if young people entered into Marriage with their eyes fully opened by the pastors of their congregation. Imagine if people had to make two decisions when opting to be together for life – a legal choice to be together and a religious choice. Imagine if internal religious Marital counseling was standard, not just before Marriage but throughout Marriage. If the church took back Marriage from the state, then it could truly become the bond it was meant to be, and we could stop futilely fighting for the state to uphold our religious beliefs. How much healthier would Marriages be if the church took ownership of their success or failure? The legal partnership would be just that – a legal partnership. The Marriage would be the tie that binds families together.